lately I've been seeing a lot of hate for Jim and Phoebe and even Brian because they wrote "tell-all books" (it's been a while since I've read them but I didn't think they went into that much detail?) and love for Mary because she didn't. but hasn't she done a few interviews where she talks about him to the media? i'm sure I've seen one. And when is it considered ok to talk about him and when is it unacceptable?
She has! I felt their books were fine, people are just hypersensitive and easily offended these days. Jim and Phoebe are gay, so naturally they’re seen as users. Thor and Lee haven’t even released their book and people have already said ‘oh no, his gay friends are cashing in!’
Mary’s done spreads for magazines, posed in his house, done exclusives and spoken on documentaries, no different from what the others have done. Also in the 70s she told a journo he’s ‘mentally all over the place’.
And do you know what? Her fans try to excuse her by making shit up like ‘she gave her fee to his charity’ like that makes it better - note, there is 0 evidence for this. And ‘It’s in the Daily Mail so can’t be believed’ - even though the interviews are conducted with David Wigg who people like to tell you is ‘his most trusted journalist’.
Lol notice how Wigg’s only the ‘trusted journalist’ when he’s saying what people want to hear. When an article is making Mary look sort of ungrateful and bitter, it’s ‘fake news!’
So basically if you’re a gay man who was close to Freddie, then you’ve got to keep your mouth shut. Only band members and Mary are allowed talk. Mary and her perma-surprised eyebrows are divine and thou shalt never speak against her!
I always see stuff about Mary in Freddie articles/posts like:
“She toured the world with him, she was his PA. He wanted her to be part of his crazy world!”
And it’s not even true. She was never his PA - those jobs were for Phoebe, Paul Prenter and Joe, his gay posse. She was his household secretary and still has the secretarial role to this day. Basically she was paid to look after his home while he was out of the UK (and she managed staff wages when he was home). She wasn’t always at his side.
Yes she did occasionally join him on tour in the mid to late 70s and she was definitely in Budapest with the entourage. But it’s another example of their relationship being blown out of proportion into this ‘inseparable soulmates’ shit.
In fact by the late 70s/early 80s, Freddie was spending a lot of time away - he was in America and she wasn’t with him. None of his NYC friends met her over there. Phoebe doesn’t mention her having a huge role in his life in this period, and David Evans said in one book that she seemed miserable cos he had left her behind and she hadn’t moved on.
I’m not saying they weren’t still good friends (she did, after all help him find Garden Lodge in either 1979 or 1980), just that she wasn’t his constant companion as is often said. There are few photos of them together in the early 80s, then she reappears in pics by 1984. His NYC friends finally got to meet her in 1986.
When you think about it, there was no
room for her in his whirlwind lifestyle of sex and drugs
when he was living abroad. Friends (Thor, and even Phoebe himself) said he sort of changed when she was present, as if he wanted to compartmentalise his relationships - he wanted to keep Mary separate from all that stuff. She was probably best for his rare quieter times…I don’t think it’s true that she was the only one who knew him inside out. I don’t think anyone did.
Fans like us have to piece him together from loads of different people’s accounts to try and understand him. And I STILL DON’T!!
The protagonist is George, a half-Indian, half Anglo-Irish man, who is camp, arty and socially awkward. George is so closely based on Freddie and the author has used a good selection of sources to create this story, including friends’ recollections of what he was like in college, plus interviews from Brian May, Roger Taylor, Mary Austin and Rose Rose (Rosemary Pearson).
The story begins with young George, an art student who wants to be a musician, but no one will take him seriously, because his raw talents are still undeveloped. His voice isn’t controlled, he’s a novice guitarist, but he secretly has genius music memory skills and can play the piano like a boss (sound familiar?). All the key characters are there under different names. Robin the guitar maestro, Anthony the pretty drummer and a sweet and shy bassist called Neil turns up a few chapters in.
There are two concurrent storylines: one is George’s journey to fame, struggling to find his niche in a series of failing bands amid criticism from everyone around him, including his parents. He really wants to be part of The Blue Murreys (Smile), but they see themselves as professionals and there’s no room for their heckling fanboy friend. Eventually the band breaks up and George coerces them to take him on board. They agree, despite some reservations about his talents. After George hones his skills, the other boys are pleasantly surprised.
The shock death of a major music idol galvanises them to work even harder to honour him and so begins their quest for that elusive recording contract. The industry is a minefield of sharks and a horrible ‘casting couch’ encounter makes the threat all too real (which is very topical right now with all the Weinstein business).
The second plot thread is his love life and is heavily influenced by the events in Rose Rose’s book, (though the author creates her fictional settings scenes to make it her own). A girl named Harryo takes an interest in George and they become intimate, but it soon becomes clear he has abandonment issues and is clingy and somewhat emotionally unstable. Nonetheless, love develops between them as they explore London’s art galleries and attend parties. All is well until George discovers Harryo has a group of homosexual friends and he becomes obsessed with them. I’m not going to spoil anything else, but if you are familiar with Freddie and Rose’s story, you know how it pans out.
Two thirds of the way in, the story will become more familiar to Queen fans, especially when George moves in with a new woman called Nerys who he believes can help correct his sexuality. This part of the story is based on Mary Austin’s interviews.
Gay erasure (perhaps accidental) is seeing photos of Freddie with David Minns and saying “Mary was so lucky”, because they don’t know who he is.
And I see “This is Mary’s Freddie” comments on photos of him in the 70s. She didn’t own him. She wasn’t that lucky. HELLO! He cheated with the man he’s standing next to.
Imagine someone seeing a photo of you and your partner and people pointing and saying ‘Awwwwh! Isn’t [their ex’s name] lucky?’ That’s what this is like!
Their friendship is so over-romanticised that some people don’t know when they split and some don’t think they did at all!